On May 14, 2025, the world lost a truly special soul. Tommy Lee passed away unexpectedly, leaving behind a legacy of love, friendship, and unwavering kindness. He was a devoted husband to Katie (Santoni) Lee, cherishing nine beautiful years together. His love extended beyond family, shaping the lives of his son James Milliser, adopted sons Zane and Murph, and his dog Sponge who will miss his bike rides.
Tommy was a son, a brother, an uncle, and a friend to so many. He was the pride of his parents, Tom and Patty Lee, and the glue that bound his sisters Wendy (Sean) Williams and Michelle Lee with their families. He held a special place in the hearts of his niece Lexy, nieces Alaina and Macy, nephews Andy, Michael, and Tino, and nieces Shayna and Stella. His in-laws, Louis and Maureen Santoni, Maggie (Kevin) Palmeri, and Sarah Santoni, embraced him as their own, as did his grandmother, Julianne Lee. He now joins his brother, Brooks Lee, who preceded him in passing.
A graduate of Windsor Central High School (Class of 1993) and SUNY Binghamton, Tommy carried his passion for sports into every aspect of life. He worked alongside his father and brother at STPS, Inc. until its closing. But what truly lit up his world was coaching—mentoring young athletes as an assistant basketball coach at Seton Catholic, and shaping young minds through Little League baseball, where he met his wife, Katie. Tommy was immensely proud of James for establishing the Opening Day ceremonies for Binghamton’s Little League baseball and softball teams—a tradition that carried forward memories from his own childhood in Windsor. His presence on the field, guiding young players with encouragement and wisdom, fostered a community where sports became more than just a game—they became a way to build character and forge lasting friendships.
Above all, Tommy had the biggest heart. He loved deeply and made sure everyone around him felt valued. To his nieces and nephews, he was “Uncle T,” always offering support in sports, life, and even the art of fishing. His friendships stretched far and wide, built on laughter, loyalty, and his unwavering generosity. Tommy’s final act of kindness was his gift of life through organ donation, a gesture that perfectly reflected his selfless spirit.
A Funeral Mass to honor Tommy will be held at St. Mary’s Church in Kirkwood, NY on May 23, 2025 at 11am, the family will receive friends at the church from 10am until the time of the service.
In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Broome County Humane Society or the BYSA youth programs—organizations that reflect the values closest to Tommy’s heart and his dedication to ensuring every child has the opportunity to play, grow, and love the game.
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